CONFLICT COACHING & MEDIATION
There’s a way
Through This
Whether you’re navigating a relationship that’s breaking down
or a life that feels out of alignment, the path starts from within.
That’s not a burden. That’s where your power is.
WHAT IS CONFLICT COACHING?
THE TRUTH
You can't fix the other person. You can't get unstuck until you understand differently than you did before. Freedom isn't found in fixing, forcing, or fighting. It's found in releasing what isn't true and moving toward what is.
THE PROCESS
The conflict — whether it lives between you and someone else, or between you and the life you're meant to live — is sustained by stories, beliefs, and perceptions that feel true but aren't fully so. Not because you're broken. Because you're human. This is how we're built.
The work of conflict coaching is both gentle and courageous. Together we'll build new awareness of what's actually driving the conflict, recognize the patterns that have been running the show, and reclaim the agency to respond differently than you have before.
THE PROMISE
Not magic. But something real. New awareness, new tools, and a new relationship with your life.
You can’t control everything.
You can control this.
When conflict is straining a relationship you care about, or keeping you from the life calling you,
it can feel like nothing you do makes a difference.
It doesn’t have to stay that way.
DO YOU RECOGNIZE YOURSELF?
You might be Here Because . . .
Neighbor/Community
It started small. A fence line. A noise complaint. A moment that didn't land the way it was meant. Now it's something else. Avoidance. A silence that says more than words. A tension you can feel but can't quite name. The place that used to feel easy… doesn't anymore.
INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP
You've tried patience. You've tried letting it go. You've even gotten intense. And still, the same argument finds its way back — different words, same ending. What used to feel manageable now feels heavier. Harder to ignore. You catch yourself thinking, If they would just change — even a little — everything could be different. And right behind it, a harder question: How long can I keep being the one who tries?
Internal Conflict
You know something in your life isn't working. You've known for a while. And still — you stay where you are. No movement. No change. Just the quiet hope that something will shift on its own. You tell yourself you're waiting for clarity. For the right moment. For a version of you that finally stops getting in your own way. But the tension isn't out there. It's here — in the space between what you know and what you do.
There's a way through this. Take the first step. I'll meet you there.
Family Conflict
The invitation arrives, and your body knows before your mind does. You can already hear it — the comment that lands wrong, the belief that turns into a weapon, the moment you swallow your response to keep the peace. You love your family. And somehow, every gathering costs you something you don't get back.
Workplace
It’s not one moment. It’s the accumulation.
The remark in the meeting that lingers longer than it should. The feedback that lands like dismissal. The subtle shift in how you’re seen, or not seen.
You hold it together. You stay professional. But you’ve started to notice how you leave smaller, tighter, carrying more than you walked in with.
And lately, a thought keeps surfacing: I can’t quit… but I don’t think I can stay.
HOW WE WORK TOGETHER
Choose Your Door
Conflict With Others
RELATIONSHIPS · FAMILY · MARRIAGE · WORKPLACE
Something has broken down between you and someone you care about, or simply have to deal with. Conflict coaching helps you change your experience of the situation, even when you can't change the other person. You'll learn to recognize your own patterns, stop your part of the cycle, and show up differently. Because when one person shifts, the dynamic shifts too.
WHO THIS IS FOR
This is for you if there's a specific relationship that's stealing your peace. A marriage that feels more like a standoff. A family member with whom you're totally disconnected. A colleague who makes your workplace feel unsafe. A friendship that has lost its way. If you’re ready to find a way through toward your peace, this is your door.
Conflict Within
FEELING STUCK · OUT OF ALIGNMENT · LOST
Sometimes the hardest conflict isn't with another person. It's with yourself. You know something needs to change. You may even know what it is. And still, you stay where you are. Circling. Waiting. Stuck. Wondering why you can't seem to move toward the life that is calling you.
This is the work of inner alignment. Not fixing what's broken, but finding your way back to what has always been true about you — your values, your vision, your Self with a capital S.
You are not a problem to be solved. You are a person coming back to themselves. Together we'll gently pull back the patterns, the voices, and the stories that have kept you in the dark. Something in you already knows the way. Let's let your light illuminate it.
WHO THIS IS FOR
This is for you if the conflict isn't out there — it's in here. You're not lost exactly. But you're not found either. Something is pulling at you. A life that feels misaligned. A dream that keeps getting postponed. A version of yourself you can almost see but can't quite reach. And the hardest part? The thing standing in the way is you. Not because you're weak — because the patterns, the voices, and the stories run deep. If you're ready to stop circling and start moving toward the life that is calling you, this is your door.
COMING SOON
Mediation
STRUCTURED CONVERSATION · MUTUAL SOLUTIONS · LASTING CHANGE
When two or more people are ready to stop being adversaries and find a way forward together, mediation creates the space for that to happen.
This isn't about splitting the difference or settling for less. It's about transformation — not just resolving this conflict, but changing how you engage with each other going forward. A solution that works for everyone at the table, and a more effective way of engaging with each other when the next hard moment arrives.
No legal advice. No taking sides. Just real conversation, skillfully held.
WHO THIS IS FOR
This is for you if conflict has taken up residence in a relationship you can't simply walk away from, and the parties involved are willing to find a way forward together. Maybe it's a marriage ending. A business partnership dissolving. A family dispute that has gone on too long. A neighbor conflict where tension has replaced friendship. Whatever brought you here, mediation creates a structured, supported space where all voices matter and everyone leaves feeling heard, understood, and part of a solution they created together.
As your mediator I won't take sides, give legal advice, or tell you what to decide. What I will do is hold the space for a real conversation — one where everyone feels heard and agreements are reached together rather than imposed from the outside.
For complex property or asset division, a family law attorney is your resource. My work is the human side of the equation — the communication, the understanding, and the agreements that no court can hand you.
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ABOUT ME
What if the most divided place in the world isn't a country,
a courtroom, or a boardroom,
but the space inside a single human heart?
I've spent my life at the intersection of difference.
I'm the oldest of seven siblings, which means I learned early that people who love each other can hurt each other deeply, and that staying in the room when it gets hard is its own kind of courage.
I spent thirty years in midwifery education, including as president of the Midwives College of Utah and teaching conflict transformation. I've sat in hard conversations in boardrooms, classrooms, accreditation hearings, and kitchen tables. I've watched institutions and communities fracture and heal. I've seen what happens when people stop talking, and what becomes possible when they start again.
I'm a parent of four teenagers. I've navigated divorce and the rebuilding that follows. I know what it costs a family when conflict is not well held, and what it gives back when it's met with courage and care.
I am also gay and a person of faith — two identities that I have been told are too different to coexist. I live every moment at an intersection that requires reconciliation for thriving.
All of this means I don't just mentor and coach connection amid difference. I practice it. Every day. In my own life.
That's my greatest qualification.
What I Believe
The great healing need of our world is connection. Real, costly, courageous connection — across the differences that divide us.
Conflict is not the enemy of connection. Conflict without a container is. Conflict is a gift of opportunity. Met with curiosity, compassion, and the willingness to see differently — that conflict becomes the very doorway to something stronger than what existed before.
I am a conflict coach because I know this is true, through my own lived experience. The world needs practitioners of connection.
If you're ready to find your way through your experience of conflict, I'd be honored to walk alongside you.